FRIENDSHIP - NATPU - DOSTI

Hmmm... Friendship... eh.. Everybody thinks that its the simplest topic that anybody in this world can talk of. Even a 5 year old child could do it. But, as the saying holds good, “Everything simple is important and most difficult to understand and implement.”

When I think of this word, I reassess my “thought approach”. Should I try approaching this word like I always do. Start off with “Definition”... Nope. I adopt a different approach because I have a notion that when you define a word, you normally fill it with constraints.. Friendship is something beyond all these constraints. It is characterized by small fights, arguments, sharing emotions, fun, sorrows, smiles, laughs, tears, hugs, kisses, affection and moreover holding on to each other.

The other aspect of friendship, everybody in this world, including me, can talk of philosophies and give a long lecture on friendship. Do we actually implement what we preach? Is it right on our part to preach something and practice something else? I have certain friends who differ with me... I have a notion that, “You should always accept friends as they are, and not ask them to change to your wishes and then accept them”.  Put it across in simple words, “I am what I am, U are also what I am” is what most people want. My friends, some of them say that the other person should change as per your wishes. I have been pondering over it for years and still I don’t find an answer to this. Is it in reality possible for us to put “our friends and their interests” in front of “our ownself and interests”?? I doubt. I have been trying to do it over years and I in my life feel that the success percentage is somewhere around 70 to 80 %.

I feel that friendship is all about 3 Fs - forget, forgive and fun. Many of us expect the others to do the first 2 Fs and keep the last F for themselves. This is where the relationship starts getting sour. Empathizing with the other person’s feelings is enough to keep the relationship alive and healthy. But the reality is dependent on how this is executed.

“Friendship is not measured when both take care of each other, it is measured when one ignores and the other still continues” – William Shakespeare. The man was absolutely correct. What the big heck in measuring something when everything is perfect, the skill and the strength are best when the assessment is made in a chaos. It is a fact that more often in life we lose people because of sheer misunderstanding and impatience. I feel that we should reassess ourselves and focus in not losing our dear ones because of misunderstanding.

 “Paasam vekka nesam vekka Thozhan undu vaazha veikaa, avana thavira uravukaaran yaarum ingilae... Ullam mattum naane, en usura kooda thaane, en nanban ketta vaangikena solluvain........

NATPAI KOODA KARPAI POLA ENNUVAIN...... “

To sum it all, I feel that friendship is all about identifying the hidden lies in your smile and the hidden truth in your tears. Friendship is as sacred, infact more sacred than one’s virginity. One thing in life which can never be replaced or substituted is FRIENDSHIP. I am fortunate enough to have lot many friends in life and I promise that I will live upto the trust they have on me.